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Question: A lesbian wedding planner planning a catholic wedding?

(Posted by: Mandy on 2009-05-13 16:38:38)

I am just beginning a new career as a wedding planner. I just began communication with my first couple. I found out that it is a Catholic wedding in a Catholic church. I am a non religious lesbian. I'm not sure if I should even bother telling them or if they'd even care. I hope this doesn't make me sound like a bigot or anything like that. I just don't want to be deceiving yet I also don't want to lose this opportunity in case they are bigots. But then, if they are bigots, I don't want to work with them. Is it even appropriate to tell them I am a lesbian. I am so confused!

Posted by: bree on 2009-05-13, 16:43:40

Don't tell them just make the wedding beautiful thats all that matter

Posted by: Free health care for all on 2009-05-13, 16:45:09

I don't think it's appropriate to broach the subject. As long as you do your job well, who cares? Right?

Posted by: RevRusty on 2009-05-13, 16:45:15

Just be a professional and be sensitive to their wants and needs. After all, it's their wedding, not yours. I don't think you need to bring up your own beliefs at all. After all, you *are* approaching this as a professional, aren't you?

Posted by: Jelle {caramelle alla frutta} on 2009-05-13, 16:46:22

I believe you should leave your private life completely separate from your work life. They hired you to be their wedding planner, they didn't ask for your opinions on their being catholic, so you're not really obliged to tell them. Take it this way, do you really want to lose a job because you're gay? There's always going to be a catholic or christian wedding, you really need to learn right now that their wants are different from yours and vice versa.

Posted by: Marysia on 2009-05-13, 16:49:55

Well as a 20 year event planning veteran - i've NEVER told anyone my sexual preference. i don't understand what's going on in this generation -- WHO CARES WHAT YOU DO IN YOUR BEDROOM?!?!?

Posted by: HardCore3 on 2009-05-13, 16:51:31

Okay ! okay ! okay ! i grew up catholic(among other things) ...but if iam correct, aren't they oppose to gay/ lesbian unions ! ...not so sure is wise. ***you want to be blessed in best day of your life, not cursed!

Posted by: Boy Wonder on 2009-05-13, 18:39:12

You know what you're there to plan a wedding not discuss your sexuality. You don't have to tell them that. It's not appropriate given the task at hand. It's completely irrelevant when it comes to planning someone else's wedding and it would be unprofessional of you to just randomly blurt out "I'M A LESBIAN!! " We all have worked with people we don't necessarily get along with. But you just have to suck it up and take it like a man (or a lesbian)!